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A story from a caretaker about his life, health challenges, and relationship with his wife, who has been taken by early onset dementia. Sad and heartwarming.

https://thewalrus.ca/when-my-wife-devel ... connected/

BrianR wrote: ↑Wed Jan 19, 2022 11:22 am A story from a caretaker about his life, health challenges, and relationship with his wife, who has been taken by early onset dementia. Sad and heartwarming.

https://thewalrus.ca/when-my-wife-devel ... connected/

Deep thanks for sharing this, Brian. Judy's response years ago to the views of those who thought her a "saint" for living with a husband who requires a wheelchair and personal aides is now true of Steve's attitude towards living with a wife with early onset Alzheimer's:

Calling me a saint or angel dehumanizes both of us. I can be crabby, judgmental, and impatient, and calling me either of those words insults you, suggesting you are so awful that no ordinary human would love you.

And I hope that can be true of spouses married to someone with Alzheimer's or other dementias:

Great love stories begin with such heady promise and end with such sadness and grief—but, at least in my case, also with memories of immense joy throughout a muscular marriage of two strong, supportive partners with challenges aplenty.